Positive Words for kids can have long lasting impression on their childhood. You can read my previous post, How To Discipline With Love, for more details about positive parenting.
Whenever I think of kids, I always think of clay. Sounds strange? Let me explain.
When you are playing with clay, you give it any shape that you fancy and it never fails you. It takes any shape that you make.
I feel kids are same too. As long as they are young, you can mold them into any shape that you desire. They are so impressionable and so vulnerable. It is so easy to change them. So easy to convince them about something.
Many times, you would have wondered, how easily they forget the fight that happened yesterday with their friends. Whereas, grown ups hold grudges for years and years together.
It’s no surprise that childhood has a long lasting impact on one’s personality. The words you use with your kids will define their character. Hence it is important that we use positive words for kids at all times. Children thrive on positive words.
Having said that, are you always at a loss how to use positive words for kids? That is apart from “I love you.” Honestly I always struggle with how to use encouraging words that are not “I love yous” and “Good jobs.”
I think these two sentences are the most used sentences as parents. Don’t get me wrong, you SHOULD use these words pretty often.
But, at times, giving them specific praise will encourage them towards more positive behavior.
The other day my daughter narrated an incident from school. Her friends were being mean to her. But after having previously learnt how to deal with mean friends, she was prepared. She said she remembered my words that it is their problem and not hers and that made her feel better. She simply gave a, “how did you know that about me?” and walked away and did not let it get to her.
What we say to our kids have a very big impact on their attitudes. So look out what you are teaching your kids through your words.
I’m giving you few examples that you can use as positive words for kids. You can use them as per the situation.
I keep a printout out of such phrases and like to refer to them to remind myself of all the great things we can say.
So here they are:
1. You did an awesome job with that.
2. I’m so glad you sorted out that problem without anyone’s help.
3. Thank you so much for helping me out.
4. It’s so wonderful that you are so passionate about ( ).
5. I’m so glad that you know what’s right and what’s wrong.
6. It really takes a lot of courage to speak the truth.
7. I have faith in you.
8. I was just telling Dad / Mom, how proud I am of you.
9. Thanks for being such a great kid today.
10. I appreciate your kindness.
11. You are the apple of my eye!!
12. I am grateful to God that you are my Son / Daughter.
13. I like how you think of solving problems.
14. You are the best Son / Daughter ever!
15. I am listening.
16. Thank you for giving it your best.
17. I know you gave it your all and it’s okay not to win every time.
18. It’s great to see your siblings / friends have so much fun around you.
19. That was a really smart choice.
20. It’s okay to ask for help when you need it.
21. You really have great imagination.
22. You are very valuable to me.
23. No matter what happens, I will never stop loving you.
24. What did I do to deserve you?
25. I am so proud of you.
26. You make us proud parents.
27. Wow!! How did you do that?
28. That was so creative of you!
29. It’s okay! All of us make mistakes.
30. You were right and I am sorry!
31. I love you even when you are naughty.
32. Please, can you get me that ( ), thank you and I love you.
33. You are beautiful and smart.
34. Sometimes, Mommy will say no.
35. You can always earn back my trust. (after a meltdown)
36. It’s okay to feel angry and you can talk to me about it.
37. You are very important to me.
38. I saw you being kind to your little brother / sister.
39. Your opinion matters in our home.
40. I believe in you.
41. I knew you could do it.
42. I know that was hard for you, yet you stayed calm.
43. That was quite impressive.
44. You handled that so well.
45. Our family would have been so incomplete without you.
46. You don’t have to be perfect for me to love you.
47. Your friends are lucky to have you.
48. When I say no, it doesn’t mean I don’t love you.
49. Seeing you happy makes me happy.
50. You made the right choice.
So those were the positive words for kids that you can use for positive parenting. If you keep repeating these phrases, you will notice that eventually it will catch up with your kids too.
You will start noticing that your child is using more and more of positive words himself / herself. Children learn what they see and not what they hear.
When you enforce positive words and positive behavior towards your child, he or she will have a more confident personality.
Whenever I am facing any difficulty, I remember my late mom’s never say die attitude. It pushes me through the toughest of times.
And I hope somewhere down the lane, when my kids are facing any kind of roadblock, they will remember my words ringing in their head, “I have faith in you, you can do this.” “I know you gave it your best, and that is all that matters.” And that would be a win for me even if it happens just once in their lifetime.
How do you use positive words for kids in your parenting style? I would love to hear about them through comments.
Until Next Time,